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			<title><![CDATA[ anger ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ A few thoughts to start the ball rolling...
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Anger is a communication, imo, to your own self. What does anger signify?
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Anger at injustice done to one&#39;s self. I think this is one that children feel often, and then they get slapped down (not meaning literally, necessarily)
for expressing it. Do we want to show children that they should not feel or express righteous anger?
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What if we listen to them fully? They probably have some very good points about why they... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (larsy)</author>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Dec 2009 09:01:04 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ What do you do about bratty behavior? ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/8131/t/What-do-you-do-about-bratty-behavior-.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Hopefully some TCSers will read this and can give advice. One issue I am having is bratty behavior, think it is the age. So for example, I accidently threw out
a couple of pieces of my daughter&#39;s lunch because I thought she was done and there were two little pieces of lettuce on it. So I told her I was sorry and
thought she was done. Then I could tell she was really mad about it saying things like &quot;I WANTED THAT!&quot; So I said &quot;Let&#39;s go sit down and
talk about it.&quot; I... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (Kai Krishna)</author>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 15 Dec 2009 10:52:15 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Anyone TCS? ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/8132/t/Anyone-TCS-.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ I really wish there were more active members interested in TCS. Honestly, when I was on the board before I was not interested in TCS and had reservations about
it. We did do AP, but my oldest has autism and likes things very rigid and does not like conversation. Now that my youngest is 7 it is a different world. She
wants to discuss things and I feel a lot of time that when we hit a wall in discussion it doesn&#39;t feel right to lay down the law. Also, school is so
authoritarian, they tell... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (Kai Krishna)</author>
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			<pubDate>Fri, 11 Dec 2009 12:07:53 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ What do you say? ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/7905/t/What-do-you-say-.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ While on vacation with dh&#39;s family, I had a few awkward moments that I did not deal with very well, and I want to figure out a better way, because I know
it is going to happen again and again.
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We were all gathered looking at photos a resort photographer had taken of the family, to choose the shots we wanted, requiring most of the adults&#39;
attention. Nearby, table and chairs and drawing materials were available for the kids while they waited for the adults to finish their... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Mon, 27 Jul 2009 03:35:11 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ hitting (also posted in MP) ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ Child with minimal language skills has discovered hitting as a form communication and entertainment.
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What would you do? ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (Katers)</author>
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			<pubDate>Fri, 29 Aug 2008 15:25:24 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Respectful Parents, Respectful kids ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3956/t/Respectful-Parents-Respectful-kids.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ by Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson....<br><br>I have been staying up late at night after everyone goes to bed and reading this book. For most of you, it probably just states everything you know and practice.<br><br>but, for those who are still struggling learning about finding common preferences and using nonviolent communication, this is an AWESOME book. I seriously am thinking of giving it as a gift to my closest friends with children. <br><br>It really lays things out simply and... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Tue, 22 Jan 2008 23:06:19 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ pointing out predjudices kindly ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ Person A is very important to us, but has issues with a certain completely cultural behavior (at least I can't fathom, no matter how much person A called is disgusting, how it could be otherwise - has nothing to do with sanitation)<br>Person A has actually helped me to recognize several of my predjudices, and is rather offended that I would call this a predjudice. How could I explain it in softer terms, or help person A deal with the fact that even she has some predjudices to work through,... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Sat, 27 Oct 2007 11:05:56 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ anger ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ right now, I think the best idea is to figure out how to redirect dc's anger from throwing dangerous objects to something else. Any interaction during the ordeal seems to just make it worse. Perferably ordeals can be avoided, but in reality, they happen every once in a while, and dc is likely to experiment someday even more as to what causes them, and thus they could be even more frequent. <br>Any input would be greatly appreciated. <br>Thanks.<div class='signature'><img... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Sun, 21 Oct 2007 08:13:53 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ dealing with people who just don't get it... ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ How do you currently deal with people who just don't get/respect your type of parenting. I am not specifically talking about the nosey neighbor, more like a grandparent or relative figure.<br><br>DD simply just isn't ready to move on from certain baby behaviors even though most in her age group have already done so. Behaviors don't bother parents who are not pushy and allowing dd to move on when she is ready.<br><br>however, well meaning loved ones are pressuring parents. Parents mostly blow... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (dragonflybloo)</author>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 20 Sep 2007 22:54:35 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ family culture vs. environmental culture ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3960/t/family-culture-vs-environmental-culture.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Children are used to everything being debatable and discussed more or less. Surrounding culture is one of laws. people get offended when laws are assumed by children to be debatable. This is especially a problem when it comes to ownership and personal boundaries. neibors etc. believe that because of &quot;ownership&quot; they can choose whether something is even up for debate. Parent believes that ignoring the culture and living law free and forcing this culture on surrounding people is not... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Tue, 07 Aug 2007 13:30:36 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Hair ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3961/t/Hair.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Family member told one desiring a radical haircut that it is horrible/ugly/bad/etc. I would like to support person desiring the cut. I'm not sure how to proceed. Family input may have already deterred the person, will find out.<br><br><br> ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (noteasybutanadventure)</author>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 31 Jul 2007 23:48:23 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Explaining family finances? ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3962/t/Explaining-family-finances-.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Any advice, ideas etc for explaining family finances to pre-school aged children? I can see how to be honest and share decision making with older children, but what about when they can't really visualise amounts over ten, think a bag of 100 pennies is a lot of money, if parents need more money they can get it from the hole in the wall, struggle to visualise planning for a month, planning for contingencies etc. I want to be honest so that when I say &quot;there's no more money&quot; it's true,... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (roxy222uk)</author>
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			<pubDate>Sat, 28 Jul 2007 13:13:58 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Please help parent failing to find cp ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3964/t/Please-help-parent-failing-to-find-cp.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Parent/s and child struggling to find cp in a common situation. Parent/s and child are out (swimming/park/friends' etc) and parent/s are ready to go home but child is not (this is usually when walking). Child wants to go in and out of shops, or else go anywhere else but back home. Often parent is desperate to be at home. Parent/s feel angry because child does not seem to register or care about parents feelings (e.g. very tired, feeling hungry) and child is angry because ultimately child knows... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Sun, 22 Jul 2007 14:55:46 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ bike helmet help ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3963/t/bike-helmet-help.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Parent wants child to wear bike helmet. Child does not because it does not look cool (has school related issues of peer pressure and not wanting to be seen out of school with un-cool helmet), despite being aware of safety issue.<br><br>This is my friend asking me. My kids wear things like helmets fine and so I have not considered this much. But my reply included: get child to choose new 'cool' helmet (parent did not like this idea because orginally the child picked this one and it's fairly... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (MamaUK)</author>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 30 May 2007 10:44:22 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Jan Fortune-Wood ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3966/t/Jan-Fortune-Wood.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Just came accross this little quote from one of her books:<br><br><!--EZCODE QUOTE START--><blockquote><strong><em>Quote:</em></strong><hr>Our children are &quot;autonomous human beings..... not control specimins who can become advertisements for how well we parented.&quot;<hr></blockquote><!--EZCODE QUOTE END--><br><br>I have nopt read any of her books and am wondering which would be a good starting off point - which do you reccomend? If Amazon is anything to go by I'd probably go for... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (MamaUK)</author>
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			<pubDate>Sun, 25 Mar 2007 05:10:47 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Friend is rough ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3967/t/Friend-is-rough.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Things have changed over the course of this relationship. Many things have changed for friend's life...part time day care, weaned, new sibling, etc. Friend is very articulate for the things spoken about...<br><br>Friend is very rough. Friend is about 9 months younger but also much bigger physically. Sometimes the roughness will be running after another child and tackling/falling on child over and over again. Another time it'll be hugging way too tight and/or grabbing arm/wrist and squeezing... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (noteasybutanadventure)</author>
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			<pubDate>Sun, 11 Feb 2007 02:03:25 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ dd destruction ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3968/t/dd-destruction.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ I haven't been around for a while, too busy with dd2, but I'm out of ideas and you guys have the most creative problem solving ideas I know of. My toddler is big time into destruction &amp; throwing, she's breaking stuff left and right and seems to think that throwing stuff is a great way to say 'no'. We have tried the obvious stuff - talking, providing alternatives, not giving her access to fragile stuff etc. but she can break 'unbreakable' dinner ware, take apart all kinds of stuff that she... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (scoutycat)</author>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 05 Feb 2007 19:43:43 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ x-post - unschooling thread ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3970/t/x-post-unschooling-thread.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ <!--EZCODE AUTOLINK START--><a href="http://p081.ezboard.com/fsageparentingfrm16.showMessage?topicID=320.topic">p081.ezboard.com/fsagepar...=320.topic</a><!--EZCODE AUTOLINK END--><br><br><br>thanks for taking a peek! ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (stafl)</author>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 11 Jan 2007 11:08:34 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Book on TCS? ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3972/t/Book-on-TCS-.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ Is there a book on TCS? I am reading Unconditional Parenting but I don't think that is exactly what TCS is from what I am gathering from the TCS website. Anyone have book recommendations for me? Your favorites? Thanks! ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Thu, 02 Nov 2006 20:57:12 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Exploring morality - book recomendations? ]]></title>
			<link>http://sageparenting.yuku.com/topic/3971/t/Exploring-morality-book-recomendations-.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ I am looking for literature to share with a young person who is exploring the exertion of power of people over other people. <br>There are a lot of sibling conflicts, often physical, and while I always try to focus on solving each present problem I realize some out-of-the heat food for thought would be great. <br><br>The ideas I am talking about are personal boudaries, the fact that being able to do something (ie. physically overpower them) does not mean one is entiteled to do it, blame and... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Wed, 11 Oct 2006 00:19:55 GMT</pubDate>
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